Monday, November 17, 2008

Heartbroken and Shutting Down


I just learned today that because of the new ruling for single women by MOWA and where I fall on my agency's approval list, my daughter won't be home until sometime in 2011.  I am heartbroken.  I've been crying in my mother's arms like a baby.  It's a good thing I am in South Carolina dealing with a family illness (I guess). 

I wanted you all to know, I am shutting my blog down.  I can't continue this for the next two years.  I know everything happens for a reason although I don't know what the reason for this is yet.  I'll miss you all!  

See you in two years!  

Selam,

Tami 
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24 comments:

  1. veggiemomNovember 17, 2008 at 8:53 PM

    I'm so sorry...
    I hope that MOWA realizes their mistake in limiting singles in this way...
    Hugs...

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  2. Kari JNovember 17, 2008 at 9:04 PM

    Oh Tami,
    My heart breaks for you. We are dealing with 5 year delays in China and the adoption community has been so supportive. Keep your dream alive. God will make it happen in His time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  3. BennettNovember 17, 2008 at 9:15 PM

    Tammi I too feel your pain

    We all are trying to hold each other up

    Be strong!!

    Celeste

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  4. JulieNovember 17, 2008 at 9:16 PM

    I am so sorry.

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  5. AnonymousNovember 17, 2008 at 9:37 PM

    Tami, I feel like something will change very soon with this limit. I was expecting to get my baby around Spring/Summer 09. I was told by Gladney that it will be between late 2009 and 2010, but I will not give up. This is truly a sad day for us. Girl, I cried like a baby at work today. My coworkers thought that somebody died! My heart is broken also. Stay strong.

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  6. AngelaNovember 17, 2008 at 9:40 PM

    Oh Tami..


    I'm sooo sorry! I'm just lost for words right now. God Bless..

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  7. AnonymousNovember 17, 2008 at 9:43 PM

    Oh Tami,

    I'm so so sad to hear this - I can't believe it.

    I hope you hang in there.

    xoxo

    Porter

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  8. knNovember 17, 2008 at 10:07 PM

    Oh Tami,

    I am so so sorry about this. This is heartbreaking. I will be thinking of you. Please reach out if you need anything.

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  9. TaniaNovember 17, 2008 at 10:10 PM

    I cried when I heard the news too! I'm so sorry....like everyone else, I just don't know what to say. It is devastating for for all singles but especially to those who were so close and had already invested so much.

    Hang in there.....maybe things will turn around when MOWA realizes what a mistake it is to limit singles.

    Take care.

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  10. AnonymousNovember 17, 2008 at 10:14 PM

    I just heard...I am so sorry. God Bless You.

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  11. AnonymousNovember 17, 2008 at 10:26 PM

    I am so sorry! Is the MOWA banning singles adoption, or just making it a longer process?
    This is really a sad thing. I hope that the problem get resolved soon.

    -Danielle

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  12. JebenaNovember 17, 2008 at 10:39 PM

    Tami, I don't have any words that are adequate or appropriate. Please know that you have my thoughts, prayers and most of all, my love.

    (((hugging you-sistafriend)).

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  13. Sweet PatienceNovember 17, 2008 at 11:17 PM

    Tami,
    I am so sorry to hear about this. I am in shock. I am sorry for you as well as Catrina. Be encouraged. Please stay in contact and know that things will work out in due season. You are in my prayers.
    Kristy
    cme4spchtx@bellsouth.net

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  14. TamiNovember 17, 2008 at 11:37 PM

    Thank you all. Now that I have stopped crying (smile) like Catrina said..."God knows best". Obviously I need this time for something else. I will use this time to get things more together and who knows what will manifest itself in my life. It won't always be easy, but I do know God has a plan for me. I don't always like what happens but it is always right and just what I need. Thank you all for you support.

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  15. ShawnNovember 17, 2008 at 11:46 PM

    Hang in there Tami!! I'll be checking in on ya' to help the time pass quickly. She will come home. Stay strong and keep the faith.

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  16. BarbaraNovember 18, 2008 at 12:26 AM

    Tami, what have you heard? Back in July I heard confirmation from my agency that singles had lower priority, but would still be allowed. Is this new restriction coming from MOWA, or is this a U.S. restriction??? In any event, I'm so sorry to hear about your delay. Don't disappear on me!!

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  17. -CNovember 18, 2008 at 1:06 PM

    Tami, I am so so sorry.

    Charlotte

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  18. I Love Purple More Than YouNovember 18, 2008 at 1:11 PM

    I can't even imagine how you must be feeling. I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope MOWA changes their mind about this.

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  19. LeslieNovember 18, 2008 at 2:06 PM

    Even having my daughter home already, I can't help crying about this news. I am so sorry.

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  20. QBNovember 18, 2008 at 5:37 PM

    Oh Tami, I'm so so sorry. I will miss you. If you are ever in Boston, before or after 2011, please look me up.

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  21. AnnaNovember 18, 2008 at 11:14 PM

    mowa is so wrong! dont leave us Tami-
    we are here for you :)

    so, so sorry....

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  22. UnknownNovember 27, 2008 at 11:40 AM

    My agency said it was a rumor and that MOWA were reviewing what to do. Are you sure this has been finalized? If so how? Please share I just finished my dossier and was about to send it in.

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  23. TamiNovember 28, 2008 at 7:58 AM

    Niani-

    No one knows anything for sure. All I know is what my agency told me. I think having your dossier in country is a good thing. Who knows maybe there is a chance that those with dossiers will get grandfathered so i would say send it in. We are still praying for a miracle.

    Waiting Arms-

    I don't know what happened to your post. I clicked it but it did not show. Technology!!!!! Like you, I am praying for that miracle...who knows? :-)

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  24. AnonymousDecember 6, 2008 at 4:45 PM

    Im writting from Europe and Im a single woman also wanting to adopt from Ethiopia. My dossier is already there and the official messagge from MOWA according to my agency is that if a single womans dossier reaches Ethiopia within the 15th of December this year, will make it to adopt normally. Make a last effort and please do check it up with your agency. Maybe you still can make it in time?
    All the very best,
    Dina from Denmark

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