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Saturday, June 30, 2007

African American & Ethiopian Relations

April 20th, 2006 By Tseday Alehegn

In my endless Internet searching I found two really interesting articles on African American & Ethiopian relations. These were so interesting to me not simply because I am adopting from Ethiopia but also because I think other African Americans need to understand the history and relationship that we have with Ethiopia and maybe then they will stop asking me WHY Ethiopia...WHY Africa?

Ethiopian and African American Relations a Brief Timeline: http://www.medhanealemdc.org/misc/Ethiopian%20And%20African%20American%20Relations.pdf
Above: Commandment Keepers Synagogue in Harlem, New York.

Ethiopia, also called Yaltopya, Cush, and Abyssinia, stands as the oldest, continuous, black civilization on earth, and the second oldest civilization in history after China. This home of mine has been immortalized in fables, legends, and epics. Homer’s Illiad, Aristotle’s A Treatise on Government, Miguel Cervante’s Don Quixote, the Bible, the Koran, and the Torah are but a few potent examples of Ethiopia’s popularity in literature. But it is in studying the historical relations between African Americans and Ethiopians that I came to understand ‘ Ethiopia’ as a ray of light. Like the sun, Ethiopia has spread its beams on black nations across the globe. Her history is carefully preserved in dust-ridden books, in library corners and research centers. Her beauty is caught by a photographer’s discerning eye, her spirituality revived by priests and preachers. Ultimately, however, it is the oral journals of our elders that helped me capture glitters of wisdom that would palliate my thirst for a panoptic and definitive knowledge.


The term ‘Ethiopian’ has been used in a myriad of ways; it is attributed to the indigenous inhabitants of the land located in the Eastern Horn of Africa, as well as more generally denotive of individuals of African descent. Indeed, at one time, the body of water now known as the Atlantic Ocean was known as the Ethiopian Ocean. And it was across this very ocean that the ancestors of African Americans were brought to America and the ‘ New World.’ Early African American Writers. Although physically separated from their ancestral homeland and amidst the opprobrious shackles of slavery, African American poets, writers, abolitionists, and politicians persisted in forging a collective identity, seeking to link themselves figuratively if not literally to the African continent. One of the first published African American writers, Phillis Wheatly, sought refuge in referring to herself as an “Ethiop”. Wheatley, an outspoken poet, was also one of the earliest voices of the anti-slavery movement, and often wrote to newspapers of her passion for freedom. She eloquently asserted, “In every human breast God has implanted a principle, it is impatient of oppression.” In 1834 another anti-slavery poet, William Stanley Roscoe, published his poem “The Ethiop” recounting the tale of an African fighter ending the reign of slavery in the Caribbean. Paul Dunbar’s notable “Ode to Ethiopia,” published in 1896, was eventually put to music by William Grant Still and performed in 1930 by the Afro-American Symphony. In his fiery anti-slavery speech entitled “What to the Slave is the Fourth of July?” prominent black leader Frederick Douglas blazed at his opponents, “Africa must rise and put on her yet unwoven garment. Ethiopia shall stretch out her hand unto God.”

First Ethiopians Travel to America. As African Americans fixed their gaze on Ethiopia, Ethiopians also traveled to the ‘New World’ and learned of the African presence in the Americas. In 1808 merchants from Ethiopia arrived at New York’s famous Wall Street. While attempting to attend church services at the First Baptist Church of New York, the Ethiopian merchants, along with their African American colleagues, experienced the ongoing routine of racial discrimination. As an act of defiance against segregation in a house of worship, African Americans and Ethiopians organized their own church on Worth Street in Lower Manhattan and named it Abyssinia Baptist Church. Adam Clayton Powell, Sr. served as the first preacher, and new building was later purchased on Waverly Place in the West Village before the church was moved to its current location in Harlem. Scholar Fikru Negash Gebrekidan likewise notes that, along with such literal acts of rebellion, anti slavery leaders Robert Alexander Young and David Walker published pamphlets entitled Ethiopian Manifesto and Appeal in 1829 in an effort to galvanize blacks to rise against their slave masters.

Right: Reverend Calvin Butts, current head of the Abyssinia Baptist Church in Harlem. Photography by Chester Higgins. ©chesterhiggins.com

Faith Is...

"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."
--- Martin Luther King Jr.

Friday, June 29, 2007

Caffeine, Rain and Adoption Reading

Why am I so blah this morning????? Maybe it's the rain, clouds or gray day. It could be all of the reading that I did with my coffee this morning. Let me tell you: caffeine and dozens of pages telling you that you need thousands of dollars for an adoption don't mix! So folks, there is no inspiring entry today! I'm just going to try to focus on work, making some money and not on the lack of (that isn't productive is it?) and if all else fails...I'll go get a pedicure and then do more purging!

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Dear Tami,

I am so excited that you are going to be working with me to adopt from Ethiopia! I will be helping you through the Gladney application process to obtain ‘Gladney Approval’. Once this is achieved, your file will be given to the program coordinator. She will assist you with your dossier, travel, referral and ultimately placement.

….uhh….did I say yesterday that I was in the PRE adoption stage! LOL then I quickly changed it to the…I am in it to win it stage. Apparently, it is a good thing that I did change MY stage because today Gladney sent me two emails with about 100 pages of documents! They also said that more documents are in the mail and that I should take time to read all of the documents, contact the agencies, begin filling out the forms, requesting more documents, scheduling appointments, sending in money, do this do that…arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…I already have a headache. I’m going back to work now. Did I also mention yet in this blog that I have a brand new company that I am also figuring out at the same time as this adoption? I must be INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well…one thing is for sure…I am not motivated by money. This is why I am adopting now. I need more and my daughter is my motivation. She motivates me to do my business; she motivates me to get up in the morning to figure all of this out so all of this is worthwhile. I had a friend call me yesterday and say can you afford all of this? I said “honestly, not really but I’m not going to worry about it. I have faith that it is all going to come together and work out. I’ve been through too much for it not to.”

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your request to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. ---Philippians 4:6-7

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Request for International Adoption Application

It is official; I am in the pre-adoption process with Gladney Center for Adoption. Today I had my adoption orientation via phone. It was pretty painless. We just went over the adoption process, application, fees and I got any questions I had answered. I say I am still in the PRE adoption phase because today I only had to pay $300 dollars. This was to secure my application only. I can still back out but I don’t get back my $300 dollars. I guess at any point in the process I can back out so, maybe, I am IN the adoption process…it depends how you look at it...Glass half empty or half full…Okay I am IN the adoption process! I’m in it to win it!

Next step, find an agency to complete my home study.

Friday, June 22, 2007

I'm Obsessed!

Okay, I’ve only been in the “I’m ready to adopt stage” for say two weeks and I’m obsessed! What is this all about? All I do is eat, sleep and drink this kid! I’m changing my life, my house, my thinking and I’m pretty excited about it. Since I can’t become pregnant I need to know, is this what it is all about? (On a side note, I was upset about that but since this first two weeks has gone by I have realized at least I can still wear my clothes! Okay, okay some of the clothes that the fertility medication weight didn’t cause me to bust out of but that is beside the point! LOL)

Am I going to get any better or does it just get worse? Is this what my life is going to be like for the next 18 years? Is this what it is going to be like for the next…rest of my life? I think I’m starting to get a little appreciation of what my mother means when she says you will understand when you become a mother. Or when she says my life started when I became a mother. However…while I am excited about this “pregnancy” I just want to be able to get to work so I can afford the good things in life like…food, a house, a car, clothes…you know, the basics!!!!!!!!

Thursday, June 21, 2007

Ethiopia Rumored To Eliminate Single Women From Adopting

Well you know how it goes. A rumor usually has a little truth to it. There has been some talk that Ethiopia has plans to eliminate single women from adopting! It's possible, China and Ukraine did just the same thing this year. Yes, that sounds crazy to me also. In a country where there are millions of children orphaned and there are countless single women that have the emotional and financial means and want to nurture, support and love children there seems to be something illogical about this.

Let me take a shot at this from my little itty bitty step stool (if you will)…maybe in a third world country and in a country where a large number of the population are Muslim, they want nothing less than the best for their children and by that they believe the best to be a two-parent household. Quite possibly they believe that single women have not married because we were “not chosen”, “had bad values” or “did not value marriage or family”. However, as part of the growing group of single women choosing to adopt we know that is not true. I’m not going to use this blog to go into why we are not married but to say that we believe in the sanctity of marriage. And to convict us just because God has yet delivered our partner to us is unfair. We want the best for our kids also and would go to the same lengths to make sure they receive it. I’m going to the same lengths to get my daughter from Ethiopia (as a two-parent family) and even more so because I am doing it alone. Now if the government eliminates singles from adopting that would mean fewer children would have the option of living in happy, healthy and functional (ok sometimes ...LOL) homes! The world has yet to find a cure for poverty, HIV and other diseases but they continue to make it difficult for the few who can make a difference. It still sounds illogical to me.

So what does this all mean for me?

I’m filling out my paperwork NOW! They aren’t locking me out, I'm going to get my baby girl! I’m not that crazy. I talk a good game but it’s their county and I’ll play by their rules! They win! So…if you are single and want to adopt from Ethiopia my advice to you…Call Gladney, Wide Horizons or another agency but you better hurry up and call somebody!