Bi-Racial Hair Video...a must see

If you have followed this blog since the beginning (silly you) then you know I used to be controversial. However, after three years (yes 3) I got old and tired, the adoption process beat me up and I was forced to chill out. Well, I've rested. Have lots of energy and starting to feel like the old me again, so I thought what better way to begin anew than to stir up a little controversy. I mean emotions...or maybe that is thinking. Dangit where are those strikeout functions for blogger?

;-)

Warning: if you are new to this blog, please don't view the video below if:

• you want to remain in a bubble, have no feelings (either way)
• think times are changing and racism doesn't exist and
• think it's perfectly normal for the Duggars to have 1 more child. I don't know what the Duggars has to do with this video or post but seriously 19 kids? OUCHHHHHHHH

So, here is the video Bi-Racial Hair. I had so many emotions when I viewed it. There were many umms and oohhs and yeahs and yups and wows that came out of my mouth. I had to view it twice. My cousin said she had to undergo some brief trauma counseling afterward. LOL Let me know what you think and we can have a deeper conversation in the comments section.

Again...remember you have been warned. See this is the nicer, kinder, gentler Tami.

Hair Helper

Many of you mamas wonder how to keep you daughter's hair fresh and free of split ends.  One way to help is a silk or satin pillow case and I can help you out with that.  I have 6 brand new ones that I'm selling from my collection.  Don't ask why I have 6, you never know with me.  It's just weird.  

The cases are a beautiful chocolate color and still in the package.  Originally priced at $29.95 but I'm letting them go at cost for $15 plus shipping.  See: satin serenity for the scoop!

Biracial Hair

You know how giving I am, so when I saw this new site Biracial Hair I immediately said "ooohhh that is perfect!" I'm not gonna lie to yah, I think the information is actually great!  I don't use all of the hair products there, you can email me for my list if you like, but why bother, her list is less expensive (I'm thinking I should switch mine).  

I actually used this method many moons ago, but when I started making more money I bought more expensive products (I don't even really remember if it made a difference).  Now that I have Baby I coming home maybe I should go back to the other method...I'll let you know how that works out and if it is a difference although price wise, this could be a great thing! 

Ohh..one quick warning about the site though, she does not say anything about poo pooing, putting vinegar in your hair or not washing it at all for weeks at a time!  I think she will even let you send her pictures and haircare questions!  So...if you have haircare drama with your little one, try asking the biracial hair care chick!

Save Their Hair

I don’t like to get into the hair care discussion much but, I just found a great hair tool, called Tomekos Twists, that I wanted to share. Yes, this was when I should have been writing my proposal, that didn’t go so well today…sighhhhh. Now, for those of us (and many of your little babes) that have/will have curly hair and locs, rubber bands will never work. They pull our hair out and the hairbands with the balls work but they aren’t that cute and they can also hurt. Oh yes, we have scunchi (spelling) but the problem with those things is I can’t get a big poof on my head. Now, I know you are thinking why would I want a big poof? I’ll tell you why because when I wear my hair curly I think like I’m a Texan. You know everything in Texas is bigger…the bigger the better. You remember in the 80s when you used to have the big feathered hair? Well, I like my curls big. Many people with curly hair (and black) like to wear their hair styled on their head but the little rubber bands that are sold in CVS don’t work for us so this new hair tool is made just for us! It’s cute and easy to use. I’m ordering mine this weekend. Okay, I promise not to do it today because that would mean more time away from this proposal that I need to do but I’m going to order it this weekend! Check it out, it may let you or your little one create some new, cute hair styles too! Now, say thanks Tami! LOL

The Big Haircare Dilemma

Well I'm off cruising in the morning and I can't stand to leave without a post. Have a good week and enjoy my latest rants.

Every time I see a post on the adoption board about haircare I immediately cringe. I know that it is going to be something, for the lack of a better word, "interesting." I mean just because you are adopting a black child does not mean the haircare product you purchase must have the name Africa in it, be purchased in the motherland, or say specifically for black hair. (FYI...Most of my friends use products like Sebastian, Enjoy, KMS, etc on their hair). Your kids are just kids. They don't need a whole lot of stuff in their hair anyway...the more you put in their hair the more dependent you are making it on the products and they are way to young for that. As one of my friends says, just let their hair do what it is going to do. No matter how much stuff you put their hair is never going to be straight so get over it. The names of some of these products: WTF... Africa Hair, Mizura, Loc Butter? I don't even put that stuff in my head. People don't believe the hype! I also read that someone was so upset about Carol's Daughter products because they liked using them on their daughter but they were so expensive. I'm not going to knock another sister's products, they are good but yes they are expensive, there are other products on the market...USE THEM!

Side bar...this same woman said she only bathed her kid once a week because she thought her daughter's skin got too dry (she moisturized twice a week only)because the products were too expensive. Lady use another less expensive product, give your kid a bath and moisturize her daily are you kidding me? Whatever happened to good 'ole Vaseline? Johnson & Johnson makes some great products. I still use some of their products on my skin and I'm as soft as a baby's ...well you know. Sighhh

Growing up my mother used Johnson & Johnson No More Tangles on my hair and it worked just fine (and I could sit on my hair). I know that dealing with ethnic hair is a challenge for some of you. I see the fear in your faces when you talk about hair care and I see the end result on your child's head. We don't want them to look crazy but please don't go to the extreme. Don't put multiple products on their hair. They don't need gels, freeze and shine, moouse, cremes and all of that stuff. It doesn't have to be some imported product from Africa (or so it says). Different kids need different things.

Finally, while I respect the views many of the adoptive mothers have provided on the big hair care dilemma I would advise if you are just very stumped find a good black hair salon to get the 411, if you don't have a good girlfriend to tell you the truth about which products to use or not to use. Oh and one more thing...let the baby's hair grow! I know she looks cute to you with short hair but in our community we have a love affair with hair (at least while they are kids) so let it grow, let it grow.

Following is a poem that I found about nappy hair. I love my nappy hair and I'm proud! :-)

Nappy-Headed by Latasha Williams

I came to this world with nappy hair
And when I was too young to really care
I loved to twirl each curl in my hand
And appreciate the texture of every strand.
But when I got older I was told
That the straightest hair was just like gold.
My hair got ironed with a metal comb
And the smell of burning grease made me moan.
I got a relaxer to run from the smoke,
But the pain of my overcooked scalp was no joke.
I even tried a Jheri curl to give myself a break
But being a target of jokes made my heart ache.
Oh, the day I turned my back on chemicals and heat,
I felt so free - oh, what a treat!
I trimmed off what was left of the damaged mess
And saw in the mirror what I thought was success.
But society said I had lost my mind
And that I would run back to tradition in time.
I got the strangest looks everywhere
And even loved ones frowned at my nappy hair.
I can't get a black brother to take me out for a meal
Since my hair lacks European appeal.
But when I look at my origin,
The continent of Africa, where my ancestors had been
And the beauty of the people who live there,
I saw nothing wrong with my nappy hair.
God gave me this hair
So I should not be ashamed
It is part of who I am
Ain't nothin' wrong with it, I exclaimed.
So I will wear my Afro, my twists and my coils!
I will not allow my confidence to be soiled.
Even if my hair is locked and dreaded,
I am proud of being nappy-headed.