What a day. But the highlight of my day was when my sister's mother said to me, "so Tami when your adoptive daughter comes and you become an adoptive mother..." I cut her off right there saying...."whoa, what a minute. When my daughter comes she will ONLY be my daughter and I will ONLY be her mother period." Everyone at the table just looked kind of shocked and said "well, okay."
I never found out what she was going to say when she began her statement and after my comment I don't think she remembered either and to be honest, I don't care.
I have decided my way to deal with everyone's comments is to cut them off right before they even start. I think people expect us (AP/PAP), to think about how we are going to be nice and explain when people say things to us because they don't really know any better. Heck we are all adults, they should know when a comment is insensitive or not, if not I don't have any problem in making it clear for them.