Friday, August 15, 2008

Zahara is Adopted

I bet you didn't know Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt adopted a daughter named Zahara.  Apparently, the media seems to think no one knows and before they publish or even say Zahara's name (or any of their other kids names that are not the twins or Shiloh) they always preface it with ADOPTED.  How that annoys me big time!  Yesterday, Black Celebrity Kids showed Brad with Zahara and wrote his adopted daughter, I lost it (nicely of course):

Why do you find it necessary to state adopted daughter? Do you feel they love Zahara any less or treat her any differently? Do you think they introduce her as their adopted daughter? Absolutely not! Stop prefacing their children as “adopted.” It is insulting to the parents and especially to the children!

The response I got back from the site was:

Tami:  This is just one of the many posts which doesn’t use the term “adopted”…Do not be so offended Thanks for the comment all the same.

I'm going to monitor this particular site for their adoption "etiquette."  Of course someone who has not walked the many miles in our shoes can say do not be offended, but it is offensive.  This is only one site, but I really hope they do correct the language they use from now on.  


Bennett said...

Hey Tami, good for you for writing, that urkes me too........I hate when people put handles on their adoptive children. I see it a lot on the forums when they list their bio and adopted looks something like this

loving wife to William
Bio son, Taylor
Bio Daughter, Marsha
Adopted Son Benjamin

I hate it, hate it, and in the words of my mom........I hate it w/a passion........... :)


Anonymous said...

Good for you, if you read the celebrity babies blog, they are very good at not mentioning children are adopted, they only mention it @ the time of the adoption.
I actually wrote to them and thanked them for the positive language they use!

Nikki said...

Wow... people are so dumb and insensitive sometimes. Good for you for saying something though!

Nikki --> blog stylizing for my Ethiopian mission!

Single PAP said...

i must be out of the norm, but this doesn't really bother me that much. we have no problem calling ourselves prospective adoptive parents or adoptive parents. and you know what? they are our kids and they are adopted. i don't think it's really that big of a deal, personally. i won't be referring to them as my adopted kids and if friends or family do i will nip it in the bud, but if it happens from time to time i will just educate and move on. too many other more serious things to stress about...

kristine said...

I really like your blog and love this post! Thanks for contacting the site. I've complained silently but never reached out, from now on I'll follow your example. For Zahara and our children's sake.

Thanks for reminding me to act up!


Anna said...

This bothers me too. I was doing some reading last night and saw that the same thing happens every time they talk about McCain's daughter Bridget. They alwasy refer to her as the adopted daughter or evven worse, daughter from a third world country. I mean how insensitive is that?! She's 16 for goodness sake. Check out this link: