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Showing posts with label News. Show all posts

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Bored with Blog Name...again

I'm sooooooo bored with this blog name!  I created it at the beginning of the process before I really knew what a blog was and before I realized I even liked blogging.  Now, I have two blogs and even have a little online personality...therefore this blog name reallyyyy doesn't reflect what I would like it to.  Yes, Baby I is my blessing, but I have a "mo betta" blog name that I am dying to use.  What do you think?  Should I wait to re-do my blog until I finally get a referral (btw...I'm back to finishing my dossier) or should I start now?  Oh, I will have to change my address (have that) too because I want everything new.  

Hmmm, now that I've used the blog for my own therapy today, I've decided to wait because I really don't have anything new to say.  Same 'ole, same 'ole but just know as soon as I get my referral...WE'RE MOVING!   And you better come visit us at our swanky new spot!  

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Yes, We Did!

As I sit in front of my TV with tears streaming down my face the only thing I can say is WE DID IT!  God IS SO GOOD!  I have so many feelings right now, I just can't seem to put them into words, but one thing I do know is...tomorrow IS a new day.  Change is coming.  Wow! 
 


Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Today's the Day



I know we will all be on pins and needles today.  
Enjoy your day.  
Talk to you tomorrow!  


Thursday, October 16, 2008

Is 7 Enough?


Is seven enough?  Doubt It!  But you gotta luv Brangelina.  They have the money and the heart...or is that the nannies to take care of all those kids (yeah, yeah...they do it themselves...whatever, man!).  It's official, per Telegraph.co.uk, they are on their way to adopting again, after they wait the obligatory six months to make sure their bunch is adjusting to the other kids.  Angelina said the children aren't even phased anymore when new kids come home.  I guess it's like..."Hey kids, you have a new brother/sister, come make them feel welcomed, go show them their room, share your toys, educate them on the media and teach them how to smile and make nasty faces".  

Anyone want to take some bets on the country/sex/age of their new child.  I remember hearing once, they want each of their children to see another that looks like them.  I'm going to say it will be another child from Africa.  Maybe Liberia.  I think there are enough boys (too much testosterone in the household) so girl, age 2-3, Zahara will stay the oldest.  

Thursday, October 2, 2008

What's in a Name?

I know you all have heard about the father who abandoned his 9 children under the Safe Haven Act in Omaha, NE, however that is not what I am writing about today.  This morning I was watching the Today Show and as Ann Curry introduced the man's family she said his step-daughter twice.  His daughter corrected him twice saying daughter.  The second time she said she was his daughter she made it clearer, "He is my real Dad, all there is is blood".  Ahhh...from the horse's mouth.  Unfortunately, Ann Curry didn't hear her and I'm pretty certain this won't be the last time she introduces someone as a stepchild OR adopted child.  The only thing we/I  can continue to do is keep telling people about the importance of the words they use AND names/titles do make a difference.  Good for that young lady.  You go girl!  


Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Brangelina Do It Again



















Did you hear my favorite couple Brangelina donated $2 million dollars last week to help fight HIV/AIDS and tuberculosis in Ethiopia?  The money will be used to help build a clinic in Addis Ababa to help children fight the diseases.  

Brad and Angelina said "It is our hope when Zahara is older she will take responsibility of the clinic and continue its mission."  

Way to go Brad and Angelina!!!!!!  


Thursday, September 4, 2008

Vogue India WTH????

For a minute the folks at Vogue had me fooled.  With the publication of the July, Vogue Italy issue (the issue with all Black models) I thought, just maybe, they were trying to do some good in the fashion industry.  Make a change.  Ruffle some racist feathers.  Give some beautiful sisters jobs so others would do the same.  

Well, Vogue was trying to pull a Jedhi mind trick on us.  Have you seen or heard about the Vogue India August issue?  They didn't highlight beautiful Indian models or any other ethnicity, but they did highlight another underserved population in their layouts.  Are you sitting down?  The issue highlights the IMPOVERISHED in a 16 page layout wearing Fendi, Hermes, Birkin and other designers (excuse me while I go throw up now!)!  See the NY Times article that talks more about it.   
A baby who may not get any food tomorrow is wearing a $100 Fendi bib!  The young girl behind them looks quite disturbed, I would be also.  No, I would be pissed!  

The man, who has probably in all likelihood made less than $500 a year (456 million Indians make less than $1.25 daily), is carrying a $200 Burberry umbrella.  

WTH was Vogue India thinking you might ask?  Their response:

Vogue India editor Priya Tanna’s message to critics of the August shoot: “Lighten up,” she said in a telephone interview. Vogue is about realizing the “power of fashion” she said, and the shoot was saying that “fashion is no longer a rich man’s privilege. Anyone can carry it off and make it look beautiful,” she said.


Baby I may be reading a lot of magazines (well, her Mom does...we have books too!), but Vogue won't be one of them.  What a bunch of idiots!   


Friday, August 15, 2008

Zahara is Adopted


I bet you didn't know Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt adopted a daughter named Zahara.  Apparently, the media seems to think no one knows and before they publish or even say Zahara's name (or any of their other kids names that are not the twins or Shiloh) they always preface it with ADOPTED.  How that annoys me big time!  Yesterday, Black Celebrity Kids showed Brad with Zahara and wrote his adopted daughter, I lost it (nicely of course):

Why do you find it necessary to state adopted daughter? Do you feel they love Zahara any less or treat her any differently? Do you think they introduce her as their adopted daughter? Absolutely not! Stop prefacing their children as “adopted.” It is insulting to the parents and especially to the children!

The response I got back from the site was:

Tami: http://blackcelebkids.com/2008/07/03/zahara-visits-mom-angelina-jolie-pitt-in-hospital/  This is just one of the many posts which doesn’t use the term “adopted”…Do not be so offended Thanks for the comment all the same.

I'm going to monitor this particular site for their adoption "etiquette."  Of course someone who has not walked the many miles in our shoes can say do not be offended, but it is offensive.  This is only one site, but I really hope they do correct the language they use from now on.  

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

CNN and the Anti Climax

So, I’ve finally managed to get out of my world and put together my thoughts on the CNN I Am: Black in America feature. Kudos to CNN for putting together and airing the special however, I was disappointed. After the big build up it was very anticlimactic. I was not the only one who felt this way, this was the sentiment I heard from about 90% of the Black people I came in contact with. I have also waited to see if anyone has posted anything on their blogs about it, but not really…most people speak about it in private and have the attitude of “whatever, it was an attempt, it’s over…moving on.” Me, not so much. I would like to discuss the issue a little further so here I go, being as brief as I can and trust me, I am cutting it as much as I can. Why was I so disappointed?

Supposedly, per CNN’s reason for creating I Am: Black in America was to present a collection of people who may surprise you. They wanted to show people who not only defied their labels, but they’ve done it in very public and dramatic ways. From what I saw during the two days it was just more of the same ‘ole same ‘ole…translation: stereotypes and negativity brought forth. One of my friends asked me if I felt this way because I was a little embarrassed and honestly the answer is yes. I was embarrassed that this was all people would see AGAIN and on CNN. More of the Baby Daddy saga, welfare struggles, jail scenarios and black kids not going to school. Yes, they did show family bonding in between but (IMHO) the negative out weighed the positive. I watched the show wondering did they consult with any Blacks in America when they thought this whole thing out, when they produced these segments? I would venture to say probably not. It was simply more a regurgitation of the negative stuff  some Black Americans live daily and it perpetuated many of the stereotypes even when they were trying to be positive.

For instance, it was great that they showed the “professional” family. The father was a superintendent, the mother was a professional and all children were in school, college graduates or planning to attend college. However they showed that even with the good this family had someone go to jail. WHAT? I’m sorry, not that it doesn’t happen on occasion, but like one of my friends (Tracey) said, was this necessary? She also commented my family has never had anyone go to jail.  She was right.  I have never had anyone go to jail either! As a matter of fact my mother was one of the first “minority” police officers Cleveland hired, my stepfather was a Deputy Sheriff and my 29 year old brother is currently on the SWAT division of the corrections department! Now that is a story for you!

I actually fell asleep on the show. It was a lot of stuff on there that we (black people) tend to laugh about (sarcastically speaking) when we hear it repeated in the media. For instance:
o Black men are pulled over more than white men
o Blacks receive inferior healthcare
o Schools in urban areas do not receive the same quality teachers or levels of funding as those in suburban areas
o Black women are marrying at lower rates
o The quality of food in urban stores is lower or healthy options not available
You don’t say? Now there is a shocker to us all! We tend to get a big kick out of it when it is FINALLY in the media because we know it and say it all the time, but no one hears us until someone like CNN or a Soledad reports it. Until that happens, like someone from the big Ethiopian board said, “It is just anecdotal.” Apparently, we have been living a life of anecdotes this woman thought. Now, there were a few good things about the show, I did appreciate some of the more specific statistics that go with those “anecdotes” I didn’t know such as:
o 45% of black women are not married, twice the number of white women, that number increases to 75% for professional black women
o 70% black women raising children on their own
o 50% of black children vs. 38% of white are raised in poverty
o 1 million more black women are working than men
o Twice as many black women are in college than men

Then there is Soledad...I like her. I think she is finding her voice and place in media and with the Black community, but for many in the black community…not so much. There has been some question as to why she was chosen to lead this series and this is the answer to why it turned out the way it did. I mean, what does she know about being BLACK? Soledad is multi-racial and that includes Black. She does not deny Black is a part of her heritage and her mother (from what I hear) is a very dark Afro Cuban. I think people are questioning because she was not so vocal and because she is married to a white man, but she is trying to bring the issues to the forefront. No, maybe she doesn’t get stopped for driving while black or followed for thinking she was shoplifting or called the “n” word but black is a part of who she is. If she weren’t doing anything and people who didn’t know she was black found out then she would be talked about for not acknowledging she was black (pretty much she is in a catch 22 situation with some people). Now, I don’t believe this was the best attempt, but it was better than no attempt…leave Soledad alone, give her a chance to find her space and voice.

Out of all of the excellent education programs that I believe actually have a chance to work for our young people WHY in the world would CNN only highlight one option (that I believe is just ridiculous). Pay kids to go to school? Give me a break! What are we teaching kids about education, and at such a young age? Now, did CNN and Soledad really think this was a viable option? If they were simply providing options why didn’t they show another program that is not just a pilot so the public can see what is working now. There ARE models that work that don’t require payment.

Sure, the Black community has its challenges BUT there is more good in the community than bad, but I finished the show only remembering the negatives. If I recall the objective was to show Black America and to defy the labels, but I finished with nothing but labels. Where was the substance? I did not see enough of it. It was too surface level and each time they approached an interesting point that could have made for a good storyline, it was cut abruptly…what a lost opportunity. 

What bothers me now is that I am reading on blogs and the Big Ethiopia Board that people think they understand Black America. YIKES!  How Horrible!  I am glad that anyone who was not Black watched in hopes of learning more about being Black In America, but I am saddened that this is the memory he or she was left with.


Friday, July 11, 2008

Having Kids Makes You Happy?

A recent article in Newsweek talks about the touchy subject of whether or not those that are parents are happier than those that are not.  As I was reading, it wasn't looking good for me. All of my hopes and dreams that Baby I will come home and spread happy juice all over my house and that my life will become happily ever after, the evidence shows...not so much!  DANG!  This is what I learned:
  • 50 percent of Americans said that adding new children to the family tends to increase happiness levels
  • 16 percent said that adding new children had a negative effect on the parents' happiness
  • Parents don't like to talk about their depression brought on by child-rearing... BLASPHEMY
  • Kids were actually worth more in the post-industrial era when they earned their keep...now we just have them for emotional reasons.  I wondered why I used to tell my mother she had me only to do the dishes (hee hee).  Always a day late and dollar short!
  • They are expensive to raise in a lifetime: $134,370 to $237,520 (I'm a bargain shopper maybe I can cut that in half), not including college tuition (what about college of hard-knocks...oh, that is free!)
  • Parents are stressed with both working two full-time jobs and less support...huh oh, what does this mean for me as a single parent?  LOL
  • The National Marriage Project's 2006 "State of Our Unions" report says that parents have significantly lower marital satisfaction than non parents because they experienced more single and child-free years than previous generations...ohhh, now I feel better.  LOL
So, the final answer to are parents happier?  Negative.  However, they do feel a greater sense of purpose and meaning in their lives than those that have never had kids!  Happiness is what you make it folks.  I cannot tell a lie, I haven't been the happiest of campers as of late, but is anyone all of the time.  I do know that I'm missing having a sense of purpose in my life.  To know that I am accountable to someone, that I am building a future for someone is scary but it definitely is something that I don't have in my life right now.  Everyday I wake I think about Baby I and know I am ready to be accountable for her.  

Monday, April 28, 2008

Here We Go Again

How do I start this post?  I know I have lost many of my blog readers because I am too controversial...I talk too much about race.  I am too straight forward.  Well, someone has to be...lol.  I've tried to be nicer (really I have).  I've tried not to talk about race so much and have conversations like Jungle Crud (you have to admit that was a good one though...lol), but after Friday I just have to bring this one up.  Sean Bell....I'm going to keep it short though.

The injustices of Sean Bell.  This young man was shot and killed by police officers in what is said to be a racially motivated incident then the police officers were found innocent after the young man who was not in possession of any guns was killed.  Where is the justice in that!?  This is so frustrating!  It is very interesting to note that even Tadias (an Ethiopian online magazine) feels the connection and injustice so much so they have posted an article on their website.  Although I don't think they know how to process what has happened because the article doesn't have any comments (like many others do), but at least they do know it is important to their community as well...I see this is a start for the Ethiopian and African American community. 

A note to parents: please remember, no matter the rich heritage your child has, the only thing the outside world will see is a chocolate face, they too can become a Sean Bell, Amadou Diallou or one of the Jena 6.  As I always say, and will continue to say, teach them about Ethiopia and being Ethiopian but also teach them about the US and being African American.