This is a current conversation on one of the Ethiopian Adoption Boards: Why do we request certain children. The author said she understands that people want girls, infants in particular because they are cute, cuddly, and have cuter clothes than boys, oh yes also because the infants are new...I can't forget that, but if we trust in God we should take what we get.
Wow. On one hand, reading between the lines, I think the author is simply concerned about the overwhelming interest in Ethiopian adoptions now that Vietnam adoptions are closing and China wait times have become extreme. Families that never even considered Ethiopian children are now saying "let's get one of them instead." So is the switch true interest in Ethiopia and their children or just in the fastest route to becoming a parent?
Now, on the other hand, I and other families who have chosen to go with an agency that gives the ability to choose the sex of their child has done so for whatever reason they have deemed works for them and who are we to judge them. We do not live their life or their struggle. Some families have all boys and finally want a girl, others plan on adopting a boy at a later date, some have no interest in boys or it may be the other way around. Whatever it is, who are we to judge and it is oh so wrong to throw God up in the mix to try to make someone feel bad for their choices. Anyway, guess what? He is already there. If there is any judgement to be made he will make it at the appropriate time.
Now, not that I owe anyone an explanation and you know I don't really care what anyone thinks, but I'm going to tell you why I have asked to be blessed with a baby girl. I come from a matriarchal family, and am extraordinarily close with my mother, aunts, and was close with my grandmother until her death. Many of my friends are in amazement of the closeness I have with my family, I want to pass that relationship onto my daughter. After I was in the hospital for 2 1/2 weeks and my mother never left my side I knew I had to have a daughter FIRST (as I am also the oldest) in my family. I fully intend to adopt a son in a few years, but I wanted to bring my daughter home first. And since I am single and don't have any other children, adopting as young as possible was important to me. That is my story and I'm sticking to it!