I don't know how many of you watch Girlfriends but for the most part I love that show. Now, the operative words here are "for the most part". I love that show because I can relate to it. I mean they took Sex in the City off so this is the next best thing and hey, they even have the same skin color as I, so the jokes even make sense to me (hee hee). But, after watching Girlfriends this week I decided that I was still fuming about the episode from last week.
Last week there was an episode about adoption. I was extra excited until the show began and Maya (not Toni...Thanks Tasha, obviously no one else watches or caught that) who is black and a regular cast member was taken aback by a new neighbor (who was white) who came by with a black baby. She immediately assumed the baby was not hers then she assumed that the baby was from some African country. The white neighbor immediately corrected her and told her the baby was hers (which I thought was great). The neighbor then went on to say adamantly that she would not adopt from Africa when there are so many needy children here in the United States. Maya then gave her the “yeah girl” and then they said a few more words, then the rest of the show basically focused on a newborn child.
Now, don't get me wrong, the need for adoption is tremendous in the US but the person who wrote that episode obviously doesn't know the truth about the foster care system, single parents, and why people adopt internationally. I was totally offended by the show. It made it seem as if we are adopting because we care nothing about the children in the US. It made it seem like it is so easy, like there are a million infants available. Like you can fill out paperwork today and get an infant tomorrow. They didn't say that you can't even adopt an infant (through the public system) without going through foster care, they didn't tell the horrors of parents wanting their children back, they didn't say that single mothers in many states can't adopt infants from public agencies because they "save" the babies for married couples...they didn't say all of these things but they were quick to put on the television their interpretation that WE are wrong or bad for adopting from AFRICA...I'm just sick of people judging what they don't know or understand...I'm sick of it. Yes, my baby girl (and maybe boy also) is coming from Ethiopia so what! Guess what? Do you think my skin is brown because I came from uhhhh Ohio? Can you tell I'm a little pissed off at 1 am?