Tuesday, August 21, 2007

The Misunderstanding

I didn't have my home study today because there was a little misunderstanding. When the social worker sent me an email it included directions (yes I read it) to his facility for the visit. But when we spoke on the phone (I thought) we agreed to have the first visit at my home. He didn't recall that and I do...oh well, one of us is wrong and since I don't have any control over the situation I guess it is me! YIKES...so far strike one for Mommy! Well, I'm trying not to cry at the moment about messing this one up. I suppose they can't keep my baby from me for making an honest mistake. We'll try this again tomorrow at 10:00 am.

6 comments:

haze said...

Oh geez, I'm sorry to hear that Tami. It sounds like the sw messed up. On to tomorrow then!

Melissa said...

This is how I rationalize incidents like this. And believe me, they are happening to me in this adoption process.

I really believe that the powers-that-be are directing this process for you. This meeting was meant to be missed because it 'just wasn't in the timing today for you and your child.' Meaning, perhaps it really did need to be postponed a day because your child needed this extra day. In order for you two, who were destined to be together by that higher power, to be together- you needed this extra day. Maybe she's not at the orphanage yet. Maybe her papers won't be processed until tomorrow. Maybe by having your homestudy today and proceeding would have meant your dossier would have been ready for one child before your child.

This is the only way I'm getting through this and all the roadblocks on this journey. Having faith (I'm not religious.. except this process is really having me believe in God)that the way it's happening is the way it's meant to be.

Does this make any sense? I'm not sure I explained it well.

Tracey said...

The way it works with Paul is that the first visit is at his office. Then, you complete your autobiography and get it to him prior to the home visit. He also asks that one of your references comes to the home visit for a short interview. Good luck tomorrow - I am sure it will be painless.

Tami said...

Thanks guys. I'm sure tomorrow will be fine. And this was meant to happen. :-)

Jocelyn said...

Hey it could have been worse...for instance...your social worker could have been walking up your driveway at 10:00 in the morning as your neighbor was coming over to tell you that someone had tried to break into your house about 30 minutes before but he had stopped them and called the police. I cut him off before he could tell me and asked if I could come over in a little bit, I was in the middle of something. Yes, happened to me!! I couldn't figure out why my door lock was broken when I got home and was too worried about my visit to think logically about it!! After she left my neighbor came back over, I found out why the door was broke and saw that my fence was also knocked down...I freaked...I had this vision of the police still being there as she showed up...that would have been so nice:-)!! Ahh memories!! I swear I live in a good area:-)

Melissa said...

so..... how did it go today?