Friday, August 31, 2007
Thursday, August 30, 2007
Friday, August 24, 2007
the girls were amazing!!!!! they are beautiful, humble, talented and bright. The show was excellent along with the costumes and music. Thank you thank you. what i didn’t understand was why was LEON there?? why why why someone please explain!
Why wouldn’t Leon be there? He had the means and interest to support the dancers so why are you being so divisive? We are all people of the African continent and should learn to love appreciate and respect one another. I saw the girls in Columbia and loved every moment of it. The crowd was diverse and it was awesome. And if you didn’t realize the purpose of the tour was to raise funds for education programs so if Leon and others can bring awareness to the plight of Ethiopia then great. Furthermore I am not Ethiopian I am of a mixed Afro Latin background but I am in the process of adopting my daughter from Ethiopia.
I just don’t understand what this is all about.
Thank you Denise.
I understand that organizers reached out to a few high profile Ethiopian’s first in order to draw attention, but none responded and then Leon jumped on board right away. Thank you Leon and I love the humanitarian work you do for ALL people. Let us not forget we ARE ALL ONE PEOPLE!
Thursday, August 23, 2007
The second email said how one woman's agency contacted her because their in-country representative was just told the government has made some changes that will affect singles but the rule has yet to be signed. However, if you are signed on with an agency you are safe. (I guess I better mail my paperwork next week, since I've paid for my home study).
So...there is a rule on the table. Will they sign it this year? Who knows but that is crazy! I want two children and in my heart I wish I could adopt two now. However, every time I look in my pocketbook I keep coming up with dust bunnies! Sighhhhhh! Maybe the rule will grandfather singles who have already adopted! Wishful thinking!
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
But on the bright side, I'm one step closer to Baby I. I feel like I'm finally making some progress. Now if I could just decide on what to do with the nursery! This is what keeps me up at night! LOL
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
OOOPPPPSSSS! Well the way the checklist looked to me... I guess it is only a checklist and it was not meant to be the end all. I'll have to remember that for the rest of this process. Note to self: Read more paper or at least browse for important points! Oh, back to my conversation with my case manager:
"Tami did you read your emails?"
"Tami did you get your emails?"
"Tami are you there?"
No, it wasn't that bad but that is what it felt like. I felt like I was back in third grade when I knew I did something really bad and I had no good excuse. I could have said...well, I've been building a new company and one of my clients was pretty unhappy or heck the dog ate it but at the end of the day I just didn't read it. I said early on in this process I knew the hardest part was going to be reading all of the papers because I never read manuals! When I was in business school I didn't learn how to use my business calculator until the end of the semester. Why? Because I didn't read the manual of course! I bet that B would have turned to an A if I fully utilized the functionality of the calculator. Oh well. It's a good thing I don't have to read too many manuals in my line of work! LOL As far as the rest of this process...Just pray for me! The moral of this story is: Reading is Essential!
Monday, August 20, 2007
As a person of color born in the United States with a heritage in Africa (I will tell you where when my DNA test comes back), Dominican Republic and Jamaica does that make me any less Dominican or Jamaican because I was not raised there? Maybe to some but not to me. Why? Because it is in my heart just as much as Africa is in my heart. My Spanish language skills are not fluent and my Patois is non existent but I love the islands, the music: Merengue, Salsa, Bachata, and Reggae, the food: Plantain, Rice and Beans, Sancocho, Ox Tails …etc, you get the point. My culture is in me although I wasn’t raised in it and I am proud. My daughter may not be raised in Ethiopia but her culture will be in her just as my culture will be in her.
Also, who is to say that simply because you are raised in a country that you are culturally rich. How many people do you know raised right here in the United States and don’t know anything about American culture and history? How much do you really know? OK…don’t send me a test!
I am certain as the years pass I will wonder what my daughter is thinking and am I exposing her enough but I won’t second guess myself about my decision to adopt her and I hope that none of you second guess yourselves either. Our paths have been set by God, not all paths are clear but we are to keep walking them and they will become clearer. So the answer to will I be enough is...Yes...we will be enough together. Selam.
Saturday, August 18, 2007
Someone wanted to know about researching Ethiopian people for complexion issues because they thought many were light skinned and wondered if this had to do with the Middle Eastern influence and how can they tell about the coloring and sizes or some other nonsense (Yes, I know there is no Middle Eastern influence). The responses came and many were simply insensitive sounding like they were buying a piece of meat: "A lot of the girls are of the long arm long legged variety... We have one of those and one that is stockier with a lot of muscle… " When I read that I said WTF many times over!? As an African American I was immediately reminded of the slave auction blocks. Africans were sold in lots often displayed by size and then commentary was given on the lots or on individual slaves, that comment was reminiscent of those.
Yes, I was pretty upset after that but it further made me wonder how many people that are not African American and adopting from Ethiopia truly understand they are not simply adopting an Ethiopian child or Ethiopian culture. In the United States (or country where you live) you are also adopting the African American community/culture. I commend everyone who is adopting and reaching out to learn about Ethiopia and trying to connect with the community but please do not forget about the African American (or black community of your country) community. The honest truth is that no matter where in the Diaspora one may come from (my family happens to be from Dominican Republic) when in the US we are looked upon as African American and will receive the same treatment as another “black” person. This is our reality. By making the decision to adopt an African child also came many responsibilities and sensitivity is one of those. So while you are busy researching and learning all you can about Ethiopia take some time to become familiar with your local African American community and learn the history because in the end we are all the same.
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Saturday, August 11, 2007
5 Things I was Doing 10 Years Ago
- Starting business school
- Planning to marry my boyfriend after I graduated (LOL)
- Living with my mother
- Driving a Red Acura Integra
- Living in Cleveland
- Bananas or any fruit
- French Fries
- Cereal (it isn't just for breakfast)
5 TV Shows I've Seen Every Episode Of
- Gray's Anatomy
- Nip Tuck
5 Things I Would Do If I Were A Millionaire - First, a million isn't that much money so...unfortunately I would keep working.
- Invest more money into my business operations to make sure that I am building a better future for me and my little one who we will begin calling Baby I (until I come up with something different). Yes...her name is picked out but I'll keep it under wraps. My goal is to have a solid company to leave her and her brother (prayerfully I will go back in a year or two).
- Pay all of my mother's bills and allow her to retire FINALLY! She would then of course become my personal assistant owing me her life! KIDDING
- Buy more real estate
- Start an education non profit
- Adopt 1-2 more children
5 Bad Habits
- Procrastination (Glad I'm in good company!)
- I've learned to enjoy my solitude too much
- Analyzing things way too much
- I don't drink enough water
- I don't eat enough (I'm just not hungry!)
5 Things I Like To Do
- Work Out (now if I went more often)
- Shop for vintage clothes
- Spend time with my friends/family
- Read magazines
- Watch comedy movies
5 Things I Will Never Wear Again - This is hard for me because I'm a vintage girl so I reuse everything at some point.
- Leg Warmers!
- Glow in the Dark Colors!
- Moon Boots!
- Fringe Jeans
5 Favorite Toys
- Digital Camera
- Laptop (although I need a new one....Haze I'm jealous of you...I want a red one or orange one!)
- My SUV
5 Things I Can't Stand
- People (especially men, hence me being single) who don't do what they say they are going to do!
- Dirty homes
- People who mistreat children
- Loud, rude people
Friday, August 10, 2007
Demand a Dream Life
"Women who live the life of their dreams don't get their by being dainty and darling. They demand what they want and do what they wan and do what it takes to make it happen. That could mean breaking a few rule, a few hearts and a few habits along the way, especially the habit of apologizing for who you are."
From A Goddess Is A Girl Best Friend by Laurie Sue Brockway
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
Today, I was at my local CVS and passed one of the preschools (Takoma Children's School) I really like and thought I would stop by to hear what their advice was to me with my pending adoption. It was pretty simple: "get on the list, we have a wait list of over 100 parents and we even have mothers trying to conceive now that are on the list for two years from now." Wow...I think I'll fill out my application soon to make sure I get my daughter a spot! The daycare center is only five minutes from my home. It's very diverse and I have always been impressed with the way the children interact. Of course it is DC and nothing is inexpensive here but what do you do? The school costs $936/$1198/$1242 for 3/4/5 full days respectively. How much does preschool cost in your neck of the woods? Whew...Thinking of all of the expenses reminds me of how I felt when I singed the papers for my house...SCARED!!!!!!!
Sunday, August 5, 2007
When I first started down this road of adoption I was so excited and I thought that my friends would be just as excited for me. Don't get me wrong most of them are but then there are the few that are sidewalk observers and then they wonder why we haven't spoken in a while. When I try to speak to them and tell them about the adoption they don't show much interest. I have very close friends who have never been to my blog and someone even said to me today "I didn't know you were adopting from Ethiopia." I almost fell off of my seat because we are supposedly very good friends but she has taken zero interest in my adoption. My feelings have been very hurt. She said she figured I would tell her about it when I wanted to. WHAT???? I tell everyone I can...I tell the grocery clerk, the drive through person at Wendy's...trust me everyone knows about my "pregnancy."
In all fairness, I did catch her up today after she said she didn't know I was adopting from Ethiopia and she has never been to my blog...I've sent her my blog address several times after she said that comment to me before. In this new phase of my life I am creating I am fighting so hard for the life that I want and deserve but I am also hurt by some of my friends ambivalence towards my adoption...did any of you have similar situations? Oh great blogdom what should I do?
Saturday, August 4, 2007
Is this test true? I was raised by a single mother in a fun, but no nonsense Caribbean household. There was no wealth there. Privilege.? My family did and still does call me the Prima Dona, I'm a tad spoiled. My mother says I deserve every bit of this for/from my daughter. LOL I've always believed the world can be mine which is why I am a serial entrepreneur. Now this is the funny part. If you remember my posting from a few days ago Now That's Growth it was about my ex-boyfriend. I did spend many YEARS "mooning" over him and I'm pretty good at painting those (pick one) images but he isn't a liar! LOL Green is a great color isn't it. LOL Sighhhhhhhhhh
You're The Great Gatsby!
by F. Scott Fitzgerald
Having grown up in immense wealth and privilege, the world is truly at
your doorstep. Instead of reveling in this life of luxury, however, you spend most of
your time mooning over a failed romance. The object of your affection is all but
worthless--a frivolous liar--but it matters not to you. You can paint any image of the
past you want and make it seem real. If you were a color of fishing boat light, you
would be green.
Take the Book Quiz
at the Blue Pyramid.
Friday, August 3, 2007
When I started down the adoption path I talked with everyone I knew who was adopted (I have several friends and family members) but I was still a little hesitant. So I started reading books but that seemed so edited. I wanted to hear the truth. My friends told me but I wanted more. This has always been my problem, my mother says I never know when enough is enough!
Thanks to one of the blogs that I view, they have two links to very real adoptee blogs. Letters to a Birthmother is by an adoptive mother whose file was recently opened up of their adopted child. Adopt This: Confessions Of An Ambivalent Adoptee...well, enough said. If anyone else has found any other adoptee blogs that are interesting please share particularly if they are by African American children or adults.
Thursday, August 2, 2007
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
So, If you ever come to my house don't be surprised...I'm learning how to live my dreams while on vacation in the comfort of my own home!
"Live Life Like Your On Vacation All The Time!" Think about it...